Struggles Behind The Real Joy :) :) !!!!

If I ask you, "what you want out of life?" and you say something like "I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like", your response is so common and expected that it doesn't really mean anything. Everybody enjoys what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life: To fall in love and have amazing relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected, admired. Everybody wants that. It's easy to want that.

A more interesting question, a question that most people never consider is "What pain do want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?"Because that seems to be greater determinant of how our lives turn out. For example, most people want to have awesome relationship, but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there.

Our culture would tell me that I have somehow failed myself, that I am a quitter or a loser. Self-Help would say that I was not courageous enough, determined enough or I didn't believe in myself enough. I wanted reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life does not work in that way.

Because happiness requires struggle. It grows from problems. Joy does not just sprout out of the ground like daisies and rainbows. Real, serious,lifelong fulfillment and meaning have to be earned through the choosing and managing of our struggles. Whether you suffer from anxiety or loneliness or obsessive-compulsive disorder, the solution lies in the acceptance and active engagement of that negative experience-not the avoidance of it.

The path to happiness is a path full of shit-heaps and shame.It's a mountain of a dream and a mile-high climb to the top.It's a never-ending upward spiral.And if you think at any point you're allowed to stop climbing, you're missing the point. Because the joy is in the climb itself.!!!!

Self-Love always helps you to see that you're a true shining star!!

So many years of education yet nobody ever taught us how to love ourselves and why it's so important.
One of the most important things you can learn to do in this world, is love yourself.. 😊 Schools are busy teaching you something, colleges are busy teaching you something else.But who actually teaches you to love yourself, as you are? It's okay if you don't come first in sports. It's okay if you don't stand first in exams. Not everyone is meant to come first anyway. But don't let all that distract you from the fact that you are still an extraordinary human being.😍

You were meant to be different and interesting. Know at this moment, you are so worthy of love. :) Know that and own it. Because if you don't give yourself that love, how can you expect the world to?..😊Don't rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can't love and respect yourself- no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are - completely; the good and the bad - and make changes as YOU see fit-not because you think someone else wants you to be different.

It's not about "HAVING" time. It's about "MAKING" time.

There are never enough hours in the day to do all the things we want to do. We keep telling ourselves we don't have enough time, and before we know it, weeks pass by, months pass by. Time seems to just slip through our fingers, It's as if the days just fly by!Today, stop for a moment to ask yourself:
What is it that you really want to do?
What is it that really makes you happy?
Who is it that you really wish to see?
Whatever it is that you need to do,go do it!!You don't want to look back at your life and regret not doing the things that made you happy. Don't let time stand in your way. There will never be enough, you just have to MAKE some... 😊

Life Lessons books taught me through words before life taught me through experience.

Some taught us morals, some taught us to dream and some told us that it was okay to fail - true defeat was in not being able to get up. Only a book lover can tell you of the things that a book has managed to leave with them - there would be many out there whose lives changed by a single quote. Words hold immense power. They nurture thoughts,emotions and sensitivity; they are instruments of learning before life happens to you. Many a time, they leave behind subtle messages of hope and cheer, things we go back in times of utter desolation.... So many stories, so many lives and so much to hold on to.

BE A LIGHT IN THIS WORLD

There are enough people out there commenting, criticizing, hating. Let it not be you. Try for one day to not let anything negative come from you. It's not easy because each day is full of little irritations - bad at work, traffic is terrible, someone bumps into you and spills your coffee etc. Know that everyone is doing their best in this world. No one wants to intentionally hurt anyone. Sometimes it just happens. Be forgiving, be kind, be the light that this world needs. :) The world actually needs a more light and love. Let it start with you. 😍💗

You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life.

No, I'm not having a bad day today. :) Just reflecting. If I am positive and happy now, it's because i have had my fair share of dark days also. In every challenging or difficult situation though, I have remembered that: 1 - it won't last forever, and 2 - good times have to be earned. If we never had bad days, how would be even know what good days were? How would we know the difference? So it's okay. It's just a test. Whenever you are hit with an unpleasant day or situation, just be strong and pull yourself through it. 

You live with your thoughts - so be careful what they are!!

Whatever you feel inside,shows on the outside. Keep positive thoughts in your mind and love in your heart. It is hard sometimes but not impossible. You just have to learn to make it a habit. You know how sometimes your purse gets so full of junk? Then when you clean it out and it feels lighter,better, easier to carry? Likewise we collect a lot of junk in our minds. Do 'Mental Cleaning' daily. Prayer, deep breathing and a conscious effort to chase away negative thoughts is what works for me. Before you know it,  happiness becomes a habit.You don't have to 'try' anymore to be more positive. You just are. You have to live with yourself, so make yourself the happiest self possible..!!!!